Clinical Expertise

The Problem with Time Outs

child time outDan Siegel talks about the problems with using time out for discipline in this Time magazine article. I agree with the concept of time-in. “Come here and calm”. Most attachment disordered children are not affected by being sent away. Closeness for them is more therapeutic. They also need the presence of the parent if they have any hope of pulling things together. They need a co-regulator; the parent is the co-regulator.

Manipulation and Control

How Do I Handle Manipulation and Control?
This video by Karyn Purvis focuses on a child’s need for control. Children that have experienced abuse and neglect learn unhealthy ways to get their needs met. This behavior may have been the only way the child was able to survive or it may have been modeled for them by unhealthy caregivers. It is extremely difficult to give up a survival technique. Karyn shared some ways parents can teach children to experience appropriate control.

Child Trauma Academy

Don’t forget to check out The Child Trauma Academy’s YouTube channel. Bruce Perry’s Seven Slide series on the brain and it’s response to stress is especially helpful to all people trying to figure out how to respond to traumatized children. To date four of the seven series trainings have been posted. Here is the link to the Child Trauma videos.

Neuro-sequential model

NMTtrainedP1The Child Trauma Academy acknowledges that Deborah Pettitt and Edie Moore have completed NMT Training Certification through the Phase I level. For more information about NMT Training Certification and the NMT Assessment process, click here.


This is an amazing video of neuro-genesis. It’s very encouraging to know that our brains continue to form new connections and prune old ones. This means that every time we respond calmly to our developmentally traumatized children we are teaching them that parents are safe instead of scary. Consistently calm parenting will eventually cause the negative connections to be pruned off since they are not used. This should give us all hope for change.